trans anger 

At some point we have to try and take our foot off the peddle of continually attacking and eviscerating everything that upsets us. We have to take stock of the fact that 1. We are traumatised. 2. There will always be thousands of newly out people joining the fray seeing enemies all around them for the first time ever looking for anything that will momentarily pull them out of experiencing this acute pain they've pushed down all their lives.

trans anger 

I dunno, but i just feel we need a better structure of inferred rules of decency and trying to move beyond anger, that we pass on to those joining because thanks to point 1, our trauma, we are always going to find good logical excuses as to why its fine actually for us to be so hateful, but its not good for us.

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trans anger 

difficulty controlling your emotions
feeling very hostile or distrustful towards the world
constant feelings of emptiness or hopelessness
feeling as if you are permanently damaged or worthless
feeling as if you are completely different to other people
feeling like nobody can understand what happened to you
avoiding friendships and relationships, or finding them very difficult
often experiencing dissociative symptoms such as depersonalisation or derealisation
regular suicidal feelings.

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trans anger 

these symptoms are what we have to assume many trans people are going to have when they come out. We have to find a structure and rules that helps mitigate the behaviour this leads to rather than enable it with philosophy and theory about how its someone elses fault and we're all totally fine.

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trans anger 

the above isn't any pathologizing of being transgender by the way. It's the symptoms of someone who has repeated traumatization in childhood.

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@mxsiege oh hey apparently i recognize the list of complex ptsd symptoms on sight by now :-(

but ... yeah. the question of "how to be in community where stepping on each other's deep-seated, basically *formative* trauma is almost guaranteed, and how to make mutual safety a thing that happens despite that" is one i don't know how to answer

almost seems like there's a hard upper limit on the size of any one community where it can be true, but i hate the idea of that

re: trans anger 

@mxsparks the only thing i can think is we need more systems in place that are like.. gentleman's honour, the pirates code, honour among thieves.. but for being trans.

re: trans anger 

@mxsparks i guess its hard, because one of the common symptoms seems to be wanting to destroy rules that came before.

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@mxsiege the closest i’ve seen to this is a number of trans women explicitly stating that they have a policy to never speak badly about another trans woman publicly

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re: trans anger 

@Cathymarinara that would definitely seem a good rule.

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