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Okay, I'm making the jump. I've got a new account @jessmahler If you are following me here, please follow me there!

Abuse Isn't the Only Wrong Way to do Polyamory wp.me/p56SDP-hf From the Archives

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I'm seeing lots of confusion around the federation about instances. So I'm gonna try to sum it up. Show more

Personal take, your mileage may vary:

If you are new to Mastodon, ignore the toots about checking out other instances.

Those posts are most useful to folks like me who've been on here a bit, are starting to find our feet, and are ready to explore Mastodon further.

A lot of folks, after they find their feet, switch to other instances, but FIND YOUR FEET FIRST.

@chuckwendig

"To help some of the newcomers make connections: name 5-7 things that interest you but aren't in your profile, as tags so they are searchable. Then boost this post or repeat its instructions so others know to do the same."



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Rules for writing blog posts about potential problems:

Don't assume other people share your context

Don't underestimate people's ability to believe it can't happen to them.

Early day, though a few years ago this was "normal" wake up time for me. Love to get back to that. Kids still sleeping so nesting partner and I get some quiet time together.

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Polyfolk Moving In Together: Should you get a new home? wp.me/p56SDP-5y From the Archives

Working on glossary for a book on and . Is there a term you think should be included? Let me know.

Getting off Masto for now so I can focus on my writing. Great chatting with folks today, see you later!

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@JessMahler You can pin public timelines and hashtags here! Open it, then click the slider icon at top-right of a tab and click Pin

The one thing I miss from bird-land is being able to have as many columns as I wanted on Tweetdeck. I got spoiled...

Science fiction becomes reality Show more

Next time I want to write horror, I'll be basing it off zombie ants. Talk about creepy. The brain is alive and functioning while the parasite manipulates it's muscles like a puppet.

I've had it drilled into me for years that I need to look people in the eyes. But it's INTENSELY uncomfortable for me. So I instinctively look away and then the training kicks in and I look back. But you can't look people in both eyes at the same time, right? So what it looks like is me repeating switching which eye I'm looking at.

You wouldn't notice unless you were really close. But according to my nesting partner it's really distracting.

Anyone else do this?

"Talking to Kids about Polyamory" is Now Live! wp.me/p56SDP-uN From the Archives

Best response I've heard to the "but isn't polyamory bad for kids?!" BS:

"It takes a village to raise a child, because it takes just one of my kids to raze a village." (Andrew Weill on Quora)

quora.com/How-are-kids-suppose

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Anyway werewolf gabe and Jesse double teaming witch mercy