Things I learned from therapy, part one: (chime in if you want to!):
1. The first 20 thoughts while you’re in crisis mode are a lie. Never believe them.
5. Our emotions all have the right to sit on our bus that we drive. We just cannot allow any of them to drive the bus for them. When sadness comes up and throws a fit we must pick it up. Acknowledge it and put it down. Tell it to sit at the back of the bus again.
I was always told I can’t have these feelings, but it’s so okay to have them. Acknowledge them. Let them go.
Thanks for sharing these beautifully worded mnemonics!
It must have been hard work to come up with these insights.
But it's probably even harder to always have them at hand in everyday life and not slip into habitual patterns.
I wish you the necessary stamina and success.
@Linuxtjej to add to that: if you DO choose to give an explanation, you get to decide what to include and when to say "I've explained it enough". There's no obligation to explain more than what you want to.
@Linuxtjej Love is a behaviour in the first place, feelings are companions. Love is respect and trust. It's a risk. To love someone is hard. To accept s.o. else's love even harder. The hardest thing of all is self-love, self-respect, self-trust. While it's the hardest to achieve, it's the key to everything.
It is OK to walk a way from people who hurt you. Even if they say that they need you, your sanity is as important as theirs.
@Linuxtjej lots of great ideas in this thread, thanks for sharing. so much relates to establishing boundaries and having them be respected by others (and oneself). the most potent idea from my experience is that the mind isn't useful for everything.
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