I really hate this thing where "not knowing stuff" is kind of the worst thing that someone can admit in tech-world. This is why so many people struggle to learn things, are afraid to ask questions,...
All these "everyone knows this!"-guys and their not very funny "jokes" are just so not useful or helpful. Especially in spaces that are MEANT for learning things!
@Jules i love making assholes uncomfortable. i'm an autistic trans woman, so this isnt hard to do.
any time i encounter a thing i dont know i will just boldly declare it and ask for help. usually this works out fine.
but sometimes i get one of those assholes and i say "wow, youre really gonna shit on me for not knowing something? you have the opportunity to see someone understand/discover/see something for the first time and you spend that being an asshole instead?"
it works
@PunkFairyAlex 😍 just saw this toot passing by and wanted to like it ten times ;) @Jules
@Jules @PunkFairyAlex meanwhile I avoid to ask because as a ADHD my childhood was embossed by punishment for being not good/fast enough. I often needed much more time to learn new things. And even today I feel stigmatized if I need more time to immerse in new things. This made me shy and scary. -.-
@necrosis fuck whoever makes you feel that way. we all have different problems and abilities, and folks are allowed to be frustrated, but it isnt okay to put someone down just bc they take longer
i encourage you to speak up. "hey, i need some extra time to learn this. could you help me with this or stop distracting me? thanks"
no need to jump on people automatically. sometimes being nice does the trick. experiment and see what works for you
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@PunkFairyAlex @Jules This is awesome and you are awesome. Your point at the end—that drives your confrontation of the assholes in question—is such a good one, well put.