On emotional authenticity and masking as an #ActuallyAutistic person
http://cassolotl.tumblr.com/post/160117558965 by @cassolotl
Based on this thread: https://cybre.space/users/cassolotl/updates/29348
@fallerOfFalls @cassolotl i genuinely hope you can cut the people out of your life who arent worth the extra effort. i think friends should be understanding of something this fundamental about yourself and you shouldnt have to do damage control because people cant deal with you being autistic
sincerely,
an #actuallyautistic #trans #punk
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@fallerOfFalls @PunkFairyAlex Yup, definitely uncomfortable with a stranger "hoping" that I will cut loved ones out of my life. Nope nope.
@PunkFairyAlex @fallerOfFalls WAIT WAIT. "who aren't worth the extra effort"! I totally missed that in my immediate emotional reaction. :D My apologies!
So, thank you. And sorry for the initial weirdly hostile reaction. And yes, I am definitely well on the way to surrounding myself with people who are awesome enough to warrant that extra effort. <3
misunderstandings happen, and even if it was a misunderstanding i really appreciate you saying that you had a problem with something i said to you.
i live with an autistic abuse survivor and someone with bpd and i love them both dearly; they're my (chosen) *family*. there are absolutely people worth the extra effort, and i'm happy that you have people like that in your life and you're surrounding yourself with more.
@PunkFairyAlex Thank you for understanding, and I really appreciate the bit about me saying that I had a problem, too. I've been putting a lot of work into being braver about speaking up when someone says or does something that makes me uncomfortable, with the help of @Andrea! It's still not 100% accurate and effective, but it's better than nothing. ;)
I'm glad you have good family. <3
@PunkFairyAlex @fallerOfFalls Not everyone who is upset by my immediate reactions to things is someone I want to cut out of my life! Honestly, I feel pretty weird that you assumed that my relationships with people who aren't 100% accepting of my weirdness all the time are automatically unhealthy and need to be cut out of my life.