@Vishsai by certainly not neglecting it. It is like any other emotion. Anger needs to be understood. And once we understand, it vanishes. And this practice once gets automated becomes management.

That's what I think. Rest
@tariquesani will be able to explain it better.

@musafir For me when my mind goes down anger increases. Lot of things which i would be OK with now causes anger.

Usually just stay away from people and wait till I cool down. For near people feel like the a pressure bomb waiting to explode. Touch and poof.

@tariquesani

@Vishsai Anger is a strong emotion needs to be channelized in right direction. Like some engry which you can channelize to do something productive. It has tremendous strength if we see it in that way. Other option is to find ways to reduce it so that it doesn't harm you pyscologically. Meditation helps. @musafir @tariquesani

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@Poonamsharma Do agree. Have done things productively because I was angry.

But when anger makes you dysfunctional it's a whole different story. One big challenge is the lack of control when it happens.

So after a decade of going through that realised that finding moments before the anger is where the control lies.

Then it became of accepting that and staying away from people so if doesn't get an opportunity to go to the next step.

@musafir @tariquesani

@Vishsai
Noticing triggers, choice points and acceptance is a great start.

Typically further steps include reframing the rules, restructuring goals being blocked and developing resilience.

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@tariquesani

That part gets lost. Plus one of my goals was not to feel angry partly because of the guilt associated with hurting people. The guilt had led to me hurt myself.

So didn't want to get to that stage again.

@Poonamsharma @musafir

@Vishsai I don't have anger issues but yes I have had short temperament problem. Now its a lot better because I focused on the cause of my short tempe,understood the issues related to that,realised its not worth my energy, its harming me at great extent and I need to deal with it asap. When you want to make yourself a better and peaceful person, you find ways out to do it. @musafir @tariquesani

@Poonamsharma Didn't have short temper. But found that I kept things which angered me that keep building.

Though my ability to understand my anger seems to hit a block so thought would ask. The idea is the same. To be a better person.

@musafir @tariquesani

@Poonamsharma

Yeah have learned to let go. My main problem was identifying the source of it also.

Found some to be childhood trauma, some due to over imagination of a situation and others due to plain misunderstanding. Then there were situations which made me angry which was the right. But even that anger started consuming me.

Took a lot of time to understand and let go and yet only when faced with a situation am I truly understanding how much I have let go.

@musafir @tariquesani

@Vishsai Dealing with the situation with calmness and letting go is the way. It will take time and effort and sometimes you might even fail but take a deep breath, make yourself realise that I need to improve for myself. Other people might be at wrong end but I need to be calm and handle the situation with atmost dignity and maturity. And when the situation is not in my hand then I will let it go because life is not fair and acceptance is the key. @musafir @tariquesani

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