“Most people know about fight, flight, and freeze — but another trauma response, “fawn,” is at the core of what people-pleasing is actually about.

To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.”

@Y3WTREE I’m glad fawning is being discussed more bc it’s quite a common response and knowing abt it is a huge step to breaking its patterns.

@Y3WTREE any tips on how to be supportive of friends showing these behaviors?

@ischade I'm still trying to deal with it myself. But perhaps one could start by first telling someone that their feelings and thoughts are valid, and reinforcing that through support.

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