“Most people know about fight, flight, and freeze — but another trauma response, “fawn,” is at the core of what people-pleasing is actually about.
To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.”
@Y3WTREE this is so good. Thank you for sharing
@Y3WTREE i like this article but i wish they'd leave a little room for "tend & befriend" too. even if someone isn't traumatized they can show a conciliatory response to a threatening event that doesn't go as far as trauma. there's a lot of gender essentialism about it in evo psych but i've seen it and done it myself
@Y3WTREE huh. thank you for sharing.
@Y3WTREE I’m glad fawning is being discussed more bc it’s quite a common response and knowing abt it is a huge step to breaking its patterns.
@Y3WTREE any tips on how to be supportive of friends showing these behaviors?
@ischade I'm still trying to deal with it myself. But perhaps one could start by first telling someone that their feelings and thoughts are valid, and reinforcing that through support.
@Y3WTREE ok. thank you!
@Y3WTREE oh shit it's me
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