Question:
If so many men argue that the assholes are the minority, (NOT ALL MEN!!!) why do we never see giant groups of men flooding women's accounts with nice, respectful messages or support?
Why doesn't dogpiling get responded to by a flood of help? Where is the support for women being stalked and threatened? Where are y'all?
I have never in my life been overwhelmed by kindness. But men literally attempt (and often succeed) destroying my life on the daily.
Where are the "good guys"?
@GinnyMcQueen You're right, especially on "disrupting abuse."
I think some of us fall to some forms of the "bystander effect" when asynchronous online abuse happens. "I'll hold off a sec and see what's happening." "Oh, this was an hour ago, I guess it's over now?" "I'm not sure a White Knight would be welcome."
_Not_ making excuses. But just realizing (as one who teaches self defense to youths) that I plan better irl against forms of the bystander effect than I do online.
