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Hello, Mastodonians. I'm wondering: do you have a strategy for keeping up a high level of interaction with people on the web while keeping things pleasant and positive? Are there things/places you avoid or emphasize? What do you do to put your voice out there, but try to reduce negative and ultimately pointless arguments and interactions?

Basically...I'm exhausted. I hate getting in to arguments, or wanting to argue with someone. I hate being deluged with negativity. I hate being negative. And I don't want to cede that that's just how being on the internet is.

@awhite

Hi Andrew, I guess that there is no real answer to your questions. People discuss. I have the feeling that people on Mastodon are quite , particularly compared to . However, there are discussions which are more confronting and less pleasant such as

Hi, @GerryT! I get that, and I understand. Mastodon is a good place, although I haven't quite found my community here yet. But I find that things devolve super-quickly in the broader 'net. I wonder how folks deal?

@GerryT My thinking isn't really fully formed about what I'm asking, or what I'm looking for. I just want to be less grumpy, but still online :)

@awhite @GerryT just choose your battles. Leave those that devolve. I've actually have had quite constructive discussions both here and on birdsite. We started by disagreeing and we probably still disagreed by the end of the thread but I think it helped gain perspective and maybe shift positions slightly, at least for me.

@qwazix @GerryT It's a good strategy. I've just reached the "It's all too much" level where I don't even want to see it. I'm trying to find something that's a step away from "just don't go online."

@awhite @qwazix
Indeed, constructive discussions exist here and on birdsite. Real hatred I haven't yet seen here, but on birdsite. Anyhow, as @qwazix said, leave those that devolve. 😀

@GerryT @qwazix I think for a bit I may just decide to read a book for a bit any time I feel the burnin' yearnin' to go on social media. Thanks for the chat!

@awhite @qwazix

In case you know French I can recommend the book "Le Liseur du 6h27" by Jean-Paul (there might be an English translation)
A quite smart book that is very nice to read.

@GerryT @qwazix Thank you! I've added it to my "To Read" list (although the English translation.) I am currently reading through the Southern Reach trilogy, which, as a HUGE fan of Stalker, is really working for me.

@awhite @GerryT just lurking and not posting for whatever reason also works. I'd like a client with no posting facility btw. Just lurking.

@qwazix @GerryT that's also a good strategy. I deleted my Disqus account last year to do just that. If the interaction is very likely to be fruitless and negative, why not just take a deep breath and move on? I need Headspace Andy to make a "Chilling out on social media" meditation. :)

@qwazix @awhite

You mean just lurking like the two grandpas at the . They just listen and are amused.

@GerryT @awhite haha that's a cool analogy. Popcorn is required though.

@awhite Haha, "less-grumpy-but-still-online" made my day. I don't know whether it is a trend or permanent, but the way how people interact on lately is filled with hatred and threats. Very weird. Here over in Europe, someone just writes that there is an issue with and some others immediately yell . Quite nasty.

@GerryT Yeah, what prompted me to write this is getting yelled at for having the audacity to say that the law believes it is the job of a driver not to door a cyclist, not the cyclist to not get doored.

@awhite If someone gets rude at a discussion like that (whose fault is it if a cyclist gets doored), then there really is the only option to stop discussion.

By the way, a good cyclist cannot get doored ;-) Just see:
mastodon.social/@atomjack604/1

@GerryT WOW! I don't think I'm doing that with my daughter in a trailer behind me. Or, heck, at all.

@awhite I also think that Mastodon is a good place. Twitter has gotten quite nasty. The idea of local and federated timelines is IMHO a good idea. Mastodon is quite small (and I also haven't quite found my community yet), but growing at a pace of ~14,000 users per day at the moment. Just see dashboards.mnm.social/d/000000

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