cara ‘presumed dead’ ellison @caraellison@mastodon.social

Hey! My lovely geniusfriend and all round renaissancemansdude @matthewseiji made ambient sounds for my 90s style girlhackertopia. Have a listen: http://caraellison.co.uk/

People have a right to create boundaries in their lives and suggesting making your own community is ostracism is an exaggeration. People with power shutting you out is bad, yes. But it’s the question of who has power that Schulman totally avoids. We need to deconstruct that first

And then asking people to involve the state in any way in queer people’s or people with sexual trauma’s lives is completely irresponsible in this climate. There’s a huge amount of evidence that this is a spectacularly dangerous decision

I applaud trying to figure this stuff out but asking someone with a recent trauma to face the person who did them violence before they even understand the harm gives someone who did something awful a chance to reframe the narrative in their favour

I really dislike Sarah Schulman’s Conflict Is Not Abuse now I’ve had ages to think about it

‘Cara wrote something so relevant to this years ago why isn’t she doing this now’ if you didn’t praise my cyberpunk fictions then too bad I make the vidgam now and don’t have time maybe in ten years when I’ve got out of the game mines

@jennatar jenn have you heard of Happy Valley. I feel like even though I’m struggling with it it might be your thing

Does this get better or worse

Ugh I tried watching Happy Valley and I’m not sure I can get through it. It’s got so much threat/worse against women stuff that I feel so uncomfortable even with Sarah Lancashire around

U2 are extremely boring but 90s dramas have conditioned me Pavlov style to get actually scared for people when With Or Without You happens

Whenever U2’s With Or Without You comes on the radio it feels like a seismic shift and I figured it out today: it’s because every 90s drama had some gutting event happen with this playing over it