Basically, what I'm saying is that my trip made me very thankful for the positive parts of the USA. It ain't perfect by far, and in many ways it's a garbage fire. But we're having conversations, sharing awareness, and working to explain why these initiatives are important.
As I told some of the guys I talked to tonight, spaces solely for marginalized people are great for killing stereotype threat. They helped me feel like a valid person who had ideas worth sharing. They have a clear purpose.
I know it sounds frustrating when you can't exist in a space because it's not for you, but... can't you accept that? Sorry, but not everything is for the majority of people. It's a side effect of the painful, marginalizing society we live in.
For all the talk about empathy in design, I want designers to understand this. Similarly to tools that get lampooned as "lazy" when they're really aimed at people with differing physical abilities, they're just not for able-bodied people – and that's okay.