Douglas 🏳️‍🌈 @caycepollard@mastodon.social

So, being an idiot here. I don’t belong on #Tinder. I want more than sex. I’m a #weirdo.

https://go.tinder.com/y3ZbXV14wLA-Douglas

I will not abuse my Ritalin. I will not abuse my Ritalin

New blog post about a great coffee shop in #Chicago where 100% of the profits go towards #suicide prevention and #mentalhealth awareness. Seriously, this place is amazing

https://blog.douglas-shoback.com/great-coffee-too/

Trying to connect to Twitter with the app to locate your friends on Mastodon and get an error. Is the app broken forever?

And being close to your partner. For me, love is expressed through closeness and kindness and just holding someone close. I can love someone deeply without having sex with them and still call it a partnership. Physical affection, emotional closeness, intellectual connections, joint interests, all of these tie into love, not just sex.

So why are Asexuals viewed as “broken”? Why can’t we have love too?

We are not broken. And we can love someone fully without sex, a deep love

I wish there were more Aces in my area. I know they’re out there, but most of the time we just feel broken and it’s our fault in relationships where we don’t want to have sex. I wish there was more understanding around this.

Sex is so intertwined with love, most Aces feel alone and unloved. Can’t have sex, then you’re unable to love. Which is so far from the truth.

Sex does not equal love. Sex is an expression of love, just like being affectionate

We’re not cis hetero people invading the LGBTQ+ community. We are a valid orientation that deserves representation.

Asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. Some aces avoid sex all together. Some aces are sex positive and will have it. But we still do not experience sexual attraction, which makes us a valid sexual orientation.

It feels weird being asexual, like I don’t belong anywhere. The lGBTQ+ community sometimes shuns is saying we’re just straight, cis people who don’t have sex.

But I’ve heard from fellow aces about corrective rape to fix their asexuality. I’ve heard from fellow aces about “giving in” to non-ace partners and having sex when they don’t want to.

Asexuality should be a part of the LGBTQ+ community as we are a sexual orientation and need a community. We aren’t broken.

My #top16 #mostplayed songs: Your Hand In Mine, First Breath After Coma, The Only Moment We Were Alone, Six Days At the Bottom of the Ocean, Memorial, California, Main Title Theme - Westworld, Sweetwater, Forever, Black Hole Sun, Little Secrets, Paint It, Black, Let’s Go, Roar, Thank God for Girls, 1901 https://mastodon.social/media/HloMuNgefD8bIq8r0Qg

We need to raise our sons more like our daughters. #feminism https://mastodon.social/media/Yc5jCBdTiJVe_fi0gy8

I always tweet this to Trump and his MAGA followers. I’m hoping some of them get the message, but most likely not. Gordon Ramsay always says it best https://mastodon.social/media/YV5jzfwxisqmTVN0pKs

#WilliamGibson #internet Has the promulgation of the internet increased our stupidity or just exposed it? https://mastodon.social/media/xhp78q_UvZlbgLNj7Wc

I’m putting a call out to #Apple #designers and #artists. The #iMessage #stickerstore is in desperate need of an #alebrijes sticker pack. Someone make this! I’d spend money on an alebrijes #stickerpack. Get on it!

I hope #Apple fixes this in #iOS12 full release. No album artwork and empty playlist artwork in #applemusic under #ios12beta https://mastodon.social/media/AReH5xF4AGzLK2X2tns

My psychiatrist questioned my sexuality. He thought it may be due to medications or diabetes. I had to inform him I’ve been this way most of my life.

It’s not fun to have your sexuality called into question. As if it even exists.

I feel compelled to tweet (toot) this out:
Mad in America: Bad Science, Bad Medicine and the Enduring Mistreatment of the Mentally Ill by Robert Whitaker
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/437622

#MentalHealth treatment in this country is appalling and Whitaker’s book explains why. I can explain through life experience how horrible it is

I have to admit to you guys that I’ve been attending a partial hospitalization program this week. I think it’s doing me a lot of good, but I’m only on day 2. Next week I move into Intensive outpatient, which isn’t as intensive

Here‘s my #WeekInMusic on #AppleMusic https://mastodon.social/media/ypKVF_78nJ3J3t31WBo