If there's just one advice I could give my younger self, it'd be to keep a diary, and to do so consistently throughout my life, not just when I feel like it.
@fribbledom do you recommend using a real paper journal or something electronic that one could back up?
I kinda do both with a Bamboo Folio smartpad (hand notes that you can download as SVG data), but I think either way works fine. Whatever works better for you or is more convenient to you, really.
Just make sure whatever you pick can actually be performed as some form of a daily ritual. So if you need your desktop PC, it wouldn't work during travels. Oh, that reminds me: especially keep a diary during your travels!
@fribbledom hmm, I work a lot on my keyboard and drawing tablet, but maybe I should deliberately change it up. Thanks!
@fribbledom It's useless. While you're young you'll never read the diary. When you get old your memory will present you with all the significant past memories - while you cannot even remember your name or what you have eaten at lunch.
I think one of the functions of s diary is to remind you of significant elements of your past which you'd rather not acknowledge, and the ones whose significance you didn't realise at the time.
The other one would be to remind you how far you've come since you did 'that thing'.
Let's be honest. You would never register anything that had the potential to become "significant elements of your past which you'd rather not acknowledge".
And, the only thing you need to remind in order to avoid problems is the anniversary of your marriage.
So, basically it's what I said: a waste of time. 😉
in other words: you'd prefer the ability to retcon your past whenever convenient :)
I'm not keeping a diary because it takes time and I find it extremely difficult to do things regularly, especially if they take time ... but all of the Müsli's Arguments are correct and valid.
It would be nice to have a record of my own past, as well as explaining my present behaviour to my future self. Might force me to come up with better excuses...
nobody can prevent you from lying to yourself! But mostly it takes the form of just not thinking very hard about something which you kinda know you're wrong about. A diary is explicit text, so it's written consciously, which makes it hardervto do this. And your future self will likely get better at spotting such lies.
Also: that something can fail does not mean it's useless, because *everything* can fail. Is everything useless, then?
I can think of more reasons. You'd be surprised how often _your own_ memory fools you. You may have vivid memories of your best friend being at a certain party with you 10 years ago? Well yeah, until you open up your own diary and read in your own hand-writing that he wasn't even there.
Don't believe me? Read up on that subject. A big amount of your memories are completely artificial and made up by your own brain.
oh, absolutely! Actually: I'm sure that more than cold hard facts (which still exist!), a diary could help show me what my own perspective (and blind spots) were at some point in time, reconsider my current view in that light, and develop more tolerance for others who may not think like me.
Tolerance is not always a good thing, and has been highly overestimated lately.
Karl Popper, for example, - considered by many as the greatest thinker of the 20th century - states in his master work, The Open Society and It's Enemies, that one cannot be tolerant with the intolerant.
Would you say mist people are too tolerant or too little? And would you think the world would be improved if everyone forgot about their past mistakes?
If you think "more tolerant" has the wrong sound, maybe try "less hypocritical".
I for one would welcome if fewer adults acted as if they'd never been children/adolescent, and that's just the very obvious superficial benefit.
@fribbledom I would suggest to my younger self, yoga or tai chi or other balance and flexibility practice.
I have diaries of the worst, most miserable periods of my life and nothing from the vast majority of it when I have been happy or at least content. If anyone looks at them, it won't be balanced.
On the other hand, I'm keeping a journal of events in my kids' lives. They're too young to remember them, so I hope the book will be interesting to them when I'm gone.
My mum used to keep one for me (ages 0-6), too, and when I became an adult, she gave them to me as a present. Honestly it's the best present I've ever gotten from anyone.
@fribbledom Getting into that habit has been one of the best parts of my 30s. Wish I did it as a younger person.
@fribbledom did you ever look at the book The Artist's Way? It helps you get into a daily writing habit with a technique called "morning pages."
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