@ton What I'm trying to say: it's really cool that you can just do that, set up a server and hook right into the bigger network—something the silos would never allow! But it doesn't mean you really, absolutely have to. You still benefit without going all the way.
@janboddez true you don't have to go all the way. Yet, if you worry about what FB can do to you , being on a large instance is worse from an accountability perspective, as you don't even have an entity to hold responsible. Not going all the way imo means using an instance that is the size, not bigger, of the community you're part of, so that the existing social relations (which are independent of the instance) provide the accountability, and the community 'owns' the tool.
@janboddez When social relationships determine choice of instance
it ultimately means an instance for your work buddies, your sports team, your old univ fraternity, your fellow pigeon breeders, your neighbourhood and perhaps a generic one akin to a town square or favourite pub, where you can meet strangers. That either means membership in 10+ or so potentially overlapping instances, or a personal instance that connects to your different contexts with you as the center of a wheel with spokes.
Server run by the main developers of the project It is not focused on any particular niche interest - everyone is welcome as long as you follow our code of conduct!