The "point" of trans masc life and joy is entirely what my brothers make of it. But I must say I am grateful to be able to observe it from an (admittedly privileged) remove, because that process of deliberate construction has taught me so much more about what kind of man I want to be than all the posturing, violence, insecurity, that economy of unearned respect, etc that I experienced immersed in cis masculinity growing up.