As someone with no FB account, the assumptions of social death often leave me a bit bemused.
I made an early fairly private choice that I didn't like the nature of FB. It wasn't a particularly technical or privacy related choice, but a kind of hunch-y ethical one. Something about the way MZ talked about it alerted me to something.
Absolutely nothing bad has happened to me as a result. I'm socially connected and totally OK.
I deleted my facebook around the time I started studying at the university, and boy did I experience social death.
I lost contact with friends from earlier schools that lived within biking distance of me, and missed out on most gatherings and parties.
This was 2010-2013, though, and my early twenties, and in Denmark, so that's definitely got something to do with it.
in England some primary schools have staff online and authorised groups/pages, and use the messaging facilities to contact parents (especially in rural areas where mobile signal is poor, but a place of employment provides wifi for staff and visitors). Not seen any child safety concerns about this, I suspect though data *is* gathered and used for advertising (such as making toy adverts or for school supplies appear on devices used by parents/kids)
@katebowles The social death aspect surprised me. But FB is a way to retain a social/emotional connection with a lot of people I’d never see otherwise. The benefit of social media is that it brings like-minded people together. But it is also engineered to foster that dopamine hit of connection. For me it became a choice to “be here now” and step aside from all that. @mattcropp