Queer update: Today, I'm feeling practically queer.

Unpopular opinion:

Bi, Pan, Omni and Poly are variations of sexual attraction which can include all gender(identitie)s, some genders or exclude genders. Omni and pan include all, bi can mean all but doesn’t have to, poly can even exclude your own gender (but still isn’t hetero).

It’s your identity. You get to place yourself on the board, but you don’t get to fuck with anyone’s (reasonable) identification.

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Allies are great, they are vital in actively promoting support of the LGBT+ community and issues. They can normalise things like asking for pronouns etc and actively educate when LGBT+ folks are exhausted.

Allies aren’t a part of the community itself, like supporting animal rights doesn’t make you an emu.

Being a decent human being and simply respecting LGBT+ folks does not make you an ally, just a decent human being.

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“Sex” is a wide open field made up of genetics, primary and secondary sexual characteristics, hormone status... sex isn’t defined by reproductive capability either. There’s a variety in cis people, too!

People with non-normative genitalia are still fucking valid and genital surgery not “the last step” a person has to jump over to be “really trans”. That’s some really toxic cis-normative (not to say TERF-y) idea.

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The basis of dysphoria is being uncomfortable with your assigned gender.

Whatever physical discomfort you might feel is *also* dysphoria but it’s not the defining characteristic of trans ness. Neither is the degree to which you want to alter your biology to fit a gender stereotype.

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Agender/Nonbinary are valid gender identities that can be, but aren’t always, the same. Both are legit identities that face much of the same obstacles as trans(/intersex) people.

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Intersex is a gender-sex-incongruence and belongs in LGBT+ spaces as much as trans people. They both want to determine their own gender identity based on how they feel, not how someone decided based on their (visible) genitals at birth.

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Asexual/Aromantic is deviating from the societal norms and thus belongs in LGBT+ spaces. They want their altered level of attraction to be recognised as a personal trait just as much as LGB want their attractions to be taken seriously.

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LGBTQ+ activism is meant to promote a self-determined gender identity as well as sexual identity.

It‘s supposed to be a space for people who get oppressed or erased in allo-cis-heteronormative culture.

Queer update: I'm feeling longingly and soulfully queer.

Queer update: I'm squishily and courageously queer.

Mein Aberglaube sagt mir, dass ich niemals diese „Kirk und Bones sind cuddle buddies“ fanfic hätte schreiben sollen...

eating disorder 

I‘ve been so stressed out and lazy that I‘ve not had anything but a chocolate bar and some BCAA drink, about as much yesterday and probably won’t have anything until dinner tomorrow. I wish it didn’t feel this way. I know it‘s unhealthy but I get why people feel good about this kind of control.

Der Melancholiker trinkt er ein paar Tassen Caffée, und ist so gescheidt, wie zuvor.

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