gender neutral pronouns in fiction Show more
@jessmahler @imani I've amused myself into giggles by trying to share an anecdote with friends and realizing that the web of people in the tale is incomprehensible unless I rework for four "they"s involved. 😀 I'm not surprised to see that it's much less amusing and way more stressful to scale that out to novel-length.
CW: sexual assault, rape culture, link has a seemingly unmoderated trash fire of a comments section Show more
http://www.katykatikate.com/2018/01/not-that-bad_15.html This is a good, funny, nuanced read on the range of experiences that we label anywhere from "bad sex" to "sexual assault", and the difficulties we might have in seeing others' labels for experiences you've both had.
"What I'm realizing now, [...] is that when I shrink my own pain, I also shrink my empathy for women who feel the same pain and feel it full-size."
hello I'd like to file a bug report against "futurism"
what i expected: dreaming about the potential of humanity. fully automated luxury gay space communism. the abolition of whiteness, cisness, maleness, and neurotypicality
what i got: boring men vapidly fawning over elom nusk
I'm only a couple of episodes in, but I'm really, really enjoying the Russian show "Silver Spoon". It's great practice for my listening comprehension, and I appreciate the complexity of the characters. Игорь manages to be funny and a little undignified without turning the whole show into a comedy or ruining the tension and suspense. I like it.
Please boost! This kind of opportunity to topple a near monopoly with FLOSS does not come often!
Are there other FLOSS #crowdfunding platforms?
Step 1 in recovering from exhaustion Show more
Drink a big glass of water, eat the healthiest realistic thing, and make sure your electrolytes aren't too out of whack. Then drink another glass of water.
Electrolyte depletion can make you feel super crappy. Replenishment tips:
POTASSIUM is abundant in tomatoes, potatoes, beans, bananas, orange juice, and most veggies. You need lots every day, 3500mg!
MAGNESIUM is found in nuts & seeds, beans, bananas, broccoli, & leafy greens.
"Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer" is really a story about how harassers/abusers suddenly turn "nice" when they want something from you.
I once saw someone say that pixel art was the first truly masculine art form and to this day I carry my great grandmothers cross stitch sampler around with me so that in case I ever meet that person I can throw it at them
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I recently declined to apply for a team lead position for exactly this reason. The team is generally great, but their sheer *inertia* made me leave the Microsoft Ignite conference feeling depressed instead of inspired when I thought of bringing home the cool stuff I learned.
How do you move a team to deeply believe that things outside of programming are important? I want them to be as driven to learn ways to improve our deployment process as they were to learn the nuances of Entity Framework.
I am *undoubtedly* not the best tech advocate, even though I keep trying. These arguments are the important part of an advocate's work and yet can be infuriating to me. It brings me the closest I get to judging people as "lazy", which is both cruel and inaccurate.
I think the real work might be in raising a team's baseline tolerance for learning/changing with tools being the mechanism for that. Train the team, get helpful tools in place by happenstance.
I don't know how to do that, tho.
And yet, to build tools that might fit a team's needs so perfectly is judged not worth the time and is recognized to be too niche -- what if the team's processes change down the road, after all?
There's a consistently strong resistance specifically around learning tools. Tools should, apparently, slot right into the spot where there's a problem and fit seamlessly into the ecosystem people are already using (e.g., Visual Studio) and require only a few mouse clicks to work.
All "what if" and "how does this relate to" questions should be completely answerable before inviting usage and the answers should be simple and require no additional tools or change.
Sounds nice, right?