https://twitter.com/shrinkthinks/status/935665955467923457
<<Rule of thumb: assume every stranger you encounter has an invisible disability, a private inconsolable grief, or are in the midst of an undetectable crisis.
Offer each other moments of respite and grace.
Don’t allow projective envy to fool you into thinking you are the only or the most vulnerable person you will encounter in your day.
I listen to people’s sorrows and secrets every day - and every one is broken - especially the people you imagine are not.>>
<<We get so caught up in our own wounds we can become grandiose about our pain. We are each one among a million suffering souls.
There are times to fight. And by necessity we all need to remember there is a time to stand down.
And we won’t always read the moment correctly. We are in a long unfolding national and planetary crisis. Anyone may be vulnerable.
We can gather up our projections and watch our assumptions. We can be better to each other
We can cool down and help the fever break.>>
@natecull Basically, if you meet a person and suspect their life and/or mind is irrepairably fucked up in some way, you are probably right.
whereas if you meet someone and everything about them seems perfect and wonderful
you are ABSOLUTELY correct to assume they're likely irreparably fucked up
nobody's perfect and nobody tries harder than those acutely aware of it, trust me
@sydneyfalk @natecull
I just do it by default. Seeming perfect is the first red flag.
<<Everyone is fighting so hard, for justice for their lives, for their futures, for each other. We have to be careful and thoughtful and offer each other respite.
We are all so activated - in fight or flight mode, exhausted by our own fear and adrenaline
We will all take shots we should not. We can always stop and pull back. And breathe. And offer up some human understanding.>>