Happy anniversary to me! Been married nine years now, read my comic? http://www.nientecomic.cfw.me
I put in a ton of effort. I wanted to change it. I attended (and still do) therapy to deal with my childhood trauma. I still research and touch base with multiple people. I've never seen him do any of these things.
He seems more content with following his father's footsteps as far as neglect goes, albeit a little differently and not to the same extent, then feeling guilty about it than actually making steps to change.
The real difference between him and me is that once I was pregnant, I did a ton of research. About how children bond, about parenting methods. I learned some psychology and instituted a rule about no hitting- because I knew first hand how fast tempers get out of control.
He says that I have an advantage because I have learned what not to do, but that's not generally how the cycle of abuse happens. I had to make an effort as far as realizing that what I had experienced wasnt great, and wanting to be different before my first child was born. It may be true that I have learned what not to do, but that doesnt mean I inherently know what is best?
Last night husband came to me telling me he was struggling bc he didnt know how to be a father. That his father was absent a lot.
This is awful, but like. I was bounced around, abused, and dehumanized for the first almost 20 years of my life and I have figured it out. I seem to have better gut feelings about what our kids need and how to treat them
I'd like everyone to know that my comic is still updating but I feel weird promoting it right now so
Go read it if you like fantasy and angels http://www.nientecomic.cfw.me
Good news my cornea is not actually separating from my eye, I just have very low blood pressure
Read my comic? http://www.nientecomic.cfw.me
My comic updated today! Go give it a read! http://www.nientecomic.cfw.me
Our dm rewards people with inspo for art (which causes me a lot of anxiety, some anger, and stress/ guilt) so I guess I'll finally get art inspo
I have an emo like idea for my rogue, nova, and maybe instead of being g embarrassed I should lean into it and just draw it
Beginner webcomic artist, mom of two, #asexual, disabled, she/ her
Server run by the main developers of the project It is not focused on any particular niche interest - everyone is welcome as long as you follow our code of conduct!