Today I realized that I cannot expect people on the Internet to have heard of the Geek Social Fallacies any more.
The Geek Social Fallacies are five things that geeks often believe about How Socializing Should Work, that cause a lot of conflict. I've found them to be pretty useful as a way to put a handle on certain concepts, and maybe even avoid going into bad situations.
http://plausiblydeniable.com/opinion/gsf.html
(Looking at them in 2017, I find myself wondering how many of the GSFs the design of most social networks is running straight into...)
@anthracite GSF 4 is why I quit Facebook. My LGBT-activist social justice friends, my small-c-conservative older white USian friends from 60s pop fandom, my techie work colleagues, and my friends from comics fandom who like inappropriate jokes, all interacting with me in the same space was *not* a good thing...
@stealthmunchkin @anthracite I just used that as an excuse to troll by posting something that is not obvious flame bait but *will* attract people with strong opinions and then I’d enjoy watching them have a go at it with one another (the people who are my actual friends on FB are almost all smart enough not to engage, so it’s just former co-workers and classmates getting angry at one another for no reason)
@duck57 @anthracite Ah, see, I'm *horribly* conflict-avoidant, and if I see two people I know fighting I get stressed for days 😕
@stealthmunchkin @anthracite That’s typically how I am in real life, but Facebook encourages bad behavior (especially when people get married and change their name and you no longer know who they are or why you added them as a friend your freshman year, so they no longer are people you know).
IRL, I’ve been known to invite people who hate each other on small gatherings because I never thought to check my guest list for conflicting personalities.