Simply put, if you're a meetup group that requires me to tell you my legal name in order to attend, I won't go to your event, and I will actively dissuade other trans folks from going. Period.
It shows that you don't have concern for our safety and basic needs.
If you wanna learn more about trans inclusion, check out my guide to using pronoun buttons at events. Maybe throw me some money for it, it's pay-what-you-want.
If you wanna learn more about pronouns, check out this pay-what-you-want zine of mine:
And a thread on accessibility tips for event organizers with no budget:
Aaaaaand my talk about how to ask people about gender, sex, names, and pronouns on forms. Includes a history lesson about how information is powerful and the basic message of "take only what you need."
If you learned something from this thread, consider buying a zine or throwing me some money on ko-fi.
My talk on how to ask about gender, sex, names, and pronouns on forms:
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