Flipping through these slides and I'm already so excited for Julien's talk at 1pm! #SelfConf
I'm speaking at #SelfConf in ~20 minutes at 1pm so come see me! Here are my slides, so at the end of my talk I can say "my slides are up on Twitter" and not be lying:
When someone asks you to use pronouns for them and you don't get it, it doesn't matter if you don't understand. Just do it!
Everyone has pronouns, not just trans people. They're not preferred pronouns.
@firstname.lastname@example.org Just because Julien has to explain pronouns all the time doesn't mean they're good at it or like doing it.
@email@example.com It's super important for pronoun buttons/stickers at events to be easily read from far away! Don't make em tiny!
@firstname.lastname@example.org Don't make pronouns a thing that only trans people have to worry about and share! Cis people, you need to be sharing yours, too!
@email@example.com If a question wouldn't be okay to ask a cis employee, don't ask it of a trans employee! Don't ask questions about someone's body or genitals.
You'd think that's obvious but, uh, it's not to a lot of people.
@firstname.lastname@example.org Don't wait until you have a trans employee to figure out if your insurance covers trans healthcare.
(An aside: there are guides online to help you audit if your healthcare is trans inclusive! Google it!)
@email@example.com Julien shares that if they're at an event of conference space and they don't know the bathroom situation, they'll sometimes stop drinking or eating for hour so they don't have to worry about it.
@firstname.lastname@example.org Put a sign near your gendered restrooms directing folks to the gender neutral restrooms if they're not nearby. Don't make people have to out themselves to ask where they are.
@email@example.com Tips for cis allies at airports:
- Stay close to the security line
- Be prepared to serve as a witness
- Have your phone ready to record
- Be prepared to ask your coworker if they want you to accompany them if they're taken to another place
@firstname.lastname@example.org Allowing trans employees to work remote helps us manage dysphoria. (and sometimes physical symptoms of things like binders)
@email@example.com If you are hosting an event for women in tech, you don't have an obligation to include other marginalized genders. Think critically about the mission for the group and who you're excluding with your language. Give a serious consideration to including trans men.
@firstname.lastname@example.org Consider instead describing your event as for "marginalized genders", avoid describing it in opposition to something (like "everyone but cis men"). Feel free to add an asterisk with a longer explanation.
@email@example.com Other relevant resources of mine for cis folks reading this thread:
A thread about why you shouldn't request legal IDs at events:
How to ask about gender & sex on forms: http://fenslattery.com/portfolio/how-to-ask-about-gender-and-sex.html
Pronouns 101: http://fenslattery.com/portfolio/pronouns-101.html
@firstname.lastname@example.org And two good books to check out:
A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns
A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer & Trans Identities
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