Some good nuggets in this article on giving feedback: https://www.virginiabalseiro.com/blog/how-to-give-feedback
This is a great point:
> It might feel to them as you're criticizing them personally, and it takes a lot of effort not to take the criticism personally. Honor that effort by making it easier not to take it personally.
Sure, it'd be great if people would try not to take things personally — especially if it wasn't intended as a personal attack! But we're all human and imperfect, and by taking the small effort of being mindful of that, feedback can be so much more effective.
I read that post, and it was really helpful to me! Some time ago I read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People", which is in line with the ideas on this article. But I tend to forget these things after a while 😅 It's specially difficult with interactions on the Internet, because they're more impersonal. So It's good to continue being reminded :).
I've always had a bad relationship with feedback, because I tend to take good feedback for granted and I just care about "bad" feedback (meaning that it's actionable and helps me improve). But I know others are not like that, and you should always keep in mind that not everyone thinks the same way you do when communicating. That's the difficult part.
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