Some good nuggets in this article on giving feedback: https://www.virginiabalseiro.com/blog/how-to-give-feedback
This is a great point:
> It might feel to them as you're criticizing them personally, and it takes a lot of effort not to take the criticism personally. Honor that effort by making it easier not to take it personally.
Sure, it'd be great if people would try not to take things personally — especially if it wasn't intended as a personal attack! But we're all human and imperfect, and by taking the small effort of being mindful of that, feedback can be so much more effective.
This is also a great attitude:
> Be prepared for your feedback not to be acted upon
If you're the one who's going to have to maintain the work, of course your input matters. But sometimes we're wrong, sometimes it's just Not That Important. There's no need to "win" everything.
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