I should figure out a mechanism to better tell when somebody I'm talking to is actually bored & just being nice or is actually interested in what I'm saying.
Over the years, I've gotten better at telling in more straightforward situations. I no longer require someone to literally tell me to shut up most of the time, the way I did a decade ago.
I'm confident that I'm failing in less ambiguous situations, which is maybe worse: I go from "obviously autistic" to "probably just a jerk/egomaniac".
Right, that's what makes it confusing. It's totally reasonable that somebody could be having a good time. The deniability is too plausible.
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