Eventually my brain settled, and I figured out how and why I had done what I did, outside of the "I thought it was okay in this context". And now I know it is highly unlikely that it happens again, because I put in the work.
But, no one else can put in the work for you. You gotta do that, you gotta look and think, if someone tells you or hints at you being racist, you own that shit and you deal with it, and TAKE your time, because it fucking takes time.
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White people HATE being called out on being racist, and we're so fucking racist that we don't even know that we are, and that's why we hate it. We hate to have to do the work, we hate to have to deal with shit that isn't about us.
I think we are the original narcissists, and it's terrible. We can't fix it overnight, but we can do little things, here and there, and talk about the issues with each other as we encounter them.