This essay neatly explains one of my big problems with fandom and the fandom concept of "canon."
The use of Annihilation is really interesting, since the whole point of that film and the Southern Reach book series is that the actions of a broken alien terraforming device are not conventionally explicable.
I remembered how to fly, you push yourself up gently on your toes and then just let go of the earth. Hold your feet steady to hover an inch above. Slowly tilt to drift and rise up, up. #dream
The unlikely queer family at the heart of the Moomins
Gendered terms (negative)
Feeling slightly disgruntled at being referred to as my cat's mama in group today. Apparently even though I don't care much about pronouns, I do care about gendered terms like that (and looking back, I hated being called Guild Mom in WoW, and there was a BF who I yeeted swiftly when he insisted on calling me an earth mother)
i feel like waaaaay more stealth trans people exist than most people realize, and also that the main reason it seems like older trans people don't exist sometimes is that most of us went deep stealth. it's so easy to just stop interacting with the trans community entirely when you've done that. this is the only place i post trans stuff at all these days, and even that's only because this is where i came out in the first place.
it's not a new observation that the iceberg of LGBT culture is so much larger than the bit society lets poke above the surface, but it's so especially glaring with trans stuff and can give a poor impression to younger trans people. ("Why are none of you older than 25, is that the age something terrible happens to us, or something??")
point is, always remember when you're lgbt/specifically trans, there's hecktons more allies around you than you think, living happy lives and thriving.
We watched The Dig on Netflix and today I looked up the actual archeological dig that it's based on, and
The photographers on the real life dig were two women - they could have had more female characters if they hadn't had to have a heterosexual love story
Also the real life Peggy Piggot wasn't a bumbling amateur, she was an experienced archeologist who had directed her own digs before working on Sutton Hoo
Coming out (is a process)
So I'm just not going to try to censor myself around family any more, and if she gets a surprise then whatever. I feel like she's had plenty of chances to ask me questions if she's curious
I used to want some kind of apology or even just an indication that she realises her attitude while I was growing up was kinda shitty but I'm probably not getting that and it's okay (2/?)
Coming out (is a process)
I'm in this weird limbo with my mom where I've explicitly come out to her a couple of times and she said "oh okay" and never acknowledged it further, leaving me to wonder if she even heard me (because she will do that sometimes if she didn't hear you, due to being HoH and tired)
And I've made it pretty clear on Facebook which I know she checks obsessively but she's never hit like on any of those posts (1/?)
On my blog: Why bisexuality isn't binary (and neither is homosexuality.)
Warn for historic images of colonialist and anti-LGBTQ violence.
anyone here who had or is thinking about getting top surgery for different reasons than dysphoria? anyone with mixed feelings before/after?
I'm in the process of getting it and the few cis people I've told seem to try to apply some narrative of it being my only option onto me that I don't think fits well. I also don't correct them because then I might have to justify my decision to them and I don't want or need to do that.
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if your cat often bothers you at your computer and walks all over your keyboard, it's because they're trying to join you and do what you're doing. It's a sign of affection! One way to mitigate disruption without pushing away your cat is by buying your cat their own laptop and plugging it in next to yours. make sure the laptop has wifi, a VPN, and access to the darkweb
Sometimes when I dismiss a notification I get a message that says "You usually dismiss these notifications, do you want to stop getting them?"
Don't most people dismiss notifications after they read them? Is the default behavior to just leave them cluttering up the bar? #smrtphone
Queer Ace NB - she/they - Gen X - introvert
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"With love and science anything is possible." -WtNV
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