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I want to talk a bit more about this book, because it really makes me rage.

Now did I snark it?

bscukcovers.wordpress.com/2021

Dammit, I never got round to it.

So here's a snark from a fellow autist.

bsc-snark.dreamwidth.org/53806

It's so bad, you guys.

It's so bad my phone actually died and rebooted itself when typing this post. That's never happened on this device before.

@actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

Babysitters Club UK Covers · 032 Kristy and the Secret of SusanThis book was my first introduction to autism. And it’s awful. It’s just so awful. Do not let this be your kid’s first time learning about ASD.

Object impermanence thoughts..

When we were younger, Xavier would often help us clean up our room and things because we would find it extremely overwhelming due to the sheer amount of crap we had (and frankly didn’t need or want in hindsight) and the fact that we would forget where we put the shit we did want five minutes later.

So he’d have us make up our bed and use it as a staging area, gently but firmly guiding us through sorting our things into piles of shit to throw away, shit to file in certain cabinets, and generally keeping us on task as a body double. It was much easier to clean that way.

He wouldn’t yell, he’d crack jokes and tell stories, he was a great person to clean with. He himself was neurodivergent to shit and his office was quite often a wreck, but the man was a goddamned genius and he was one of the only people who could motivate me in particular calmly.

Memories of cleaning with him are some of the only fond memories of doing chores we have. Most of the rest are very traumatic and unpleasant.

I got to thinking about cleaning with him because I just dumped my afternoon dose of meds out on my bed to see what I was doing better, using the bed as a staging area like he used to do with me..

I miss him.

-Allēna

opensorceryy.coXavier – Page 2 – Open Sorcery

Regarding boredom..

These prompts, have been going OFF lately. Here’s today’s.

What bores you?

Well, I am an AuDHDer, so, in short… Pretty much everything after a point, fortunately or unfortunately. My brain is hardwired for two things, as best I can determine, and those things are patterns and novelty, such that after I get used to something, I can tune it out. It can, in every meaningful way, cease to exist to me.

That skill has served me very well during situations where I was being actively abused – I would memorize my abusers to such a degree that I could work around them and they’d be all but nonexistent to me. In situations where I actually give a shit but things are just moving too damn slowly for my brain that processes shit at roughly the speed of the manhole we accidentally launched into space, it’s a helluva curse and I would rather die than be stuck in whatever situation I’m in waiting. Patience is not my strong suit. So I tend to live in my head a lot to pass the time.

The one consistent exception to this is when something pisses me the fuck off. Then it’s eternally interesting and it’ll get stuck in my head until I solve it. I cannot count the number of special interests I’ve gotten into because someone told me I couldn’t ever do them.

I am a contrarian little bitch who finds ways or fucking makes them…

-Allēna

What’s this? Another prompt I want to actually take somewhat seriously?

Who are your favorite people to be around?

People who are straightforward, honest, and the only bullshit they give me is the joking kind. Preferably, they can see shit about me that I can’t, and can do shit that I can’t without making me feel like shit for it. They don’t talk my ear off constantly about meaningless shit and believe that words have as much power as actions and use both in tandem.

I’m very picky about the people I surround myself with, and it’s a high bar because I have made peace with solitude most days, being mostly housebound and all, to the point where if I prefer being alone more than I enjoy spending time with a person, I simply won’t engage with them if I don’t have to. I am too tired and have too much shit to do (as well as people I actually like) to pay the people I dislike much mind. My energy is precious and I don’t have much of it. So I do my best to use it wisely. My favorite people get that and go to great lengths to help me protect the little energy I have.

I’m not proud of a lot of the way my life has gone, and there’s a lot that happened that’s entirely outside of my control. However, I’m damn proud of the fact that I picked great people.

-Allēna

Probably on the road to future diagnosis, hoping for some advice with how to go about this

lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22119446

lemmy.blahaj.zoneProbably on the road to future diagnosis, hoping for some advice with how to go about this - Blåhaj LemmyI think I might finally be on the road to getting some sort of diagnosis and learning how to live (although it’s still talk right now and who knows if I don’t just end up with an appointment 6 months from now). At this point I’m 90% sure it’s autism or ADHD or some combination thereof. But I’m also aware of the possible folly of reading into things as far as self diagnosis goes. But I’ve been lurking and spending time in these sorts of communities for a couple of years now and feel like I’ve been learning more and more about myself. And I’m pretty sure now that I’m not just stupid and lazy and unreasonably defiant and depressed. I think I just haven’t learnt how to function in a world that wasn’t made for me. I’m hoping to ask some advice on if I should do some homework or start making notes about my perceived reasons or symptoms before starting anything official and official. I started out terrible at doing homework and it’s got worse as I got older but if there’s any important literature that I should read, it would be awesome to know about it and I could push through reading it. And notes, should I start taking notes of things to speak about or bring up? Thank you in advance. Might only start replying and stuff later became I’m feeling a little scrambled right now and only slept about 4 hours last night.

Jessica McCabe - How to ADHD

Invitingly readable chonky book. Each chapter has a bit of "this is what it's like" and a bit of "things you can try", with plenty of stories. Has a whole chapter for non-ADHD people wanting to support someone close to them, as well as many useful topics like remembering/forgetting or time. Compassionate about difficulties, with a healthy balance of "let's appreciate ourselves as we are, not only look for new ways".

What are your favorite books or resources on how to live with Adult ADHD, Neurodivergence.

There seems to be encouraging research on executive skills training, any thoughts on this?

Asking for myself (likely Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome / Sluggish Cognitive Tempo) and for my counseling practice clients.

🔄 Pls boost for visibility

#ADHD #AdultADHD #Neurodivergence #ExecutiveFunction #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #BookRecommendation #AskFedi

(tagging @adelinej @FractalEcho @dramypsyd)

Et ben... premier gros meltdown du grand au collège, lors du forum Avenir ou faut aller voir les stands des différents lycées.
Appel de l'infirmière. Elle l'avait jamais vu comme ça. En larmes, en colère, à jeter le livret. Son AESH l'a amené à l'infirmerie pq savait plus quoi faire pour le calmer (ben... rien... le mettre en sécurité et le laisser parler de ses IS à la limite.)
Bon ben j'ai expliqué le principe du meltdown à l'infirmière du coup et verbaliser mes inquiétudes et le fait que je sens qu'il est très angoissé par l'avenir mais le montre pas.
#vieEnTSA #autism #AutistiquementVotre #autisme #Neurodivergence

I have to admit to you, Team. I am having one of the hardest days I have had since Mum died. I just haven't been able to get a grip on this day.

Nothing particularly big or important has happened. Just a drizzly day in February where my dog was misbehaving and I couldn't focus or keep a level head. I let my post-Mum related tasks slip for the most part...

I woke up from a very
pleasant dream which wasn't related to Mum or current events in my life at all. Waking up to a different reality from that pleasance was enough to unsettle me though. Lost love, lost comfort and lost hope are hard to get over.

Neuro-divergence and Depression are very strange and so unpredictable. Throw real life into the mix and what an odd place we end up at.

I have a hard road ahead of me for practical reasons but I am also dealing with my own fucked-up head-cannon. Keeping the outward behaviour synced has taken up more of my spoons than I realised.

Not sure what else to say...

This is Hamish... Last survivor of this brain, signing off.

#MentalHealth #MH #ND #NeuroDivergence #Grief #Loss #Relationships #Pain

This prompt is interesting.

Are there any activities or hobbies you’ve outgrown or lost interest in over time?

In person socializing, mostly, unless you’re one of about five people on a very good day.

Alongside that, we seem to be slowly losing the ability to speak aloud due to burnout and fatigue. It’s just… Not something we want to do much anymore. We would rather do shit than talk about it. Idk.

-Lazarus