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Bethany Black

Despite many decades of attempts I have discovered it’s not possible to hate myself into being better at anything

@BethanyBlack Don’t hate the sapling for not being a tree. Nurture it with kindness.

@BethanyBlack This is so true but so incredibly hard (IMO) to properly internalise? I have a post-it note with the Allison Raskin quote "I don't become a better person by shitting on myself" stuck to the wall above my desk right in my eye-line, because it's a reminder I need literally daily.

@BethanyBlack Well

I hated myself into becoming a better person, and now I'm happy with who I am. That's rich from a cis white guy I know, but it's the only perspective I have to offer.

Hate is an emotion like anger, you can't repress emotions but you can watch what they do to you and react usefully to them.

I wish you didn't hate yourself because I quite like you, but hook that shit up to your cart and make it do work. <3

@BethanyBlack
But, and hear me out here, what if I try *again*?