Despite many decades of attempts I have discovered it’s not possible to hate myself into being better at anything
@BethanyBlack Don’t hate the sapling for not being a tree. Nurture it with kindness.
@BethanyBlack This is so true but so incredibly hard (IMO) to properly internalise? I have a post-it note with the Allison Raskin quote "I don't become a better person by shitting on myself" stuck to the wall above my desk right in my eye-line, because it's a reminder I need literally daily.
@BethanyBlack Well
I hated myself into becoming a better person, and now I'm happy with who I am. That's rich from a cis white guy I know, but it's the only perspective I have to offer.
Hate is an emotion like anger, you can't repress emotions but you can watch what they do to you and react usefully to them.
I wish you didn't hate yourself because I quite like you, but hook that shit up to your cart and make it do work. <3
@BethanyBlack
But, and hear me out here, what if I try *again*?